Weddings are changing all the time, and more and more couples are bucking tradition in favor of doing their own thing. That can make things a little confusing for guests. Luckily, there are a few solid rules regardless of what kind of wedding your loved ones are having. So, let’s break down how to be a great wedding guest.
RSVP Early and Do it Right
This may sound strange, but couples typically struggle to get everyone to RSVP. They have to chase people down and ask if they’re coming to the wedding. So, RSVP as soon as you can. Beyond that, make sure you only RSVP for the people invited. Hint: Look at who the invitation is addressed to if you’re unclear about who it includes. Don’t RSVP for a plus-one or more unless they’ve been directly invited. If you’re unsure, reach out to the couple and ask.
Be on Time
Maybe this is obvious, but weddings tend to always have latecomers. Don’t let this be you! Make sure you have plenty of time to get ready, GPS the directions before it is time to go, and to get yourself there at least five minutes before the ceremony start time. The bride can be late. You can’t!
This one can be a little tricky. It can be hard to know how to dress. Some couples will spell it out for you in the invite by saying “Semi-formal” or “black tie.” In that case, you can just follow a cheat sheet, like this one from The Knot. Other couples won’t state their dress code, and in that case, I suggest erring on the side of caution and dressing up. Jeans are not usually appropriate, but feel free to bring them to change into later in the evening. A dress or basic suit works best. If the dress code really matters, they’ll tell you and just make sure you respect their wishes.
I get it. Two people you love are getting married, and you want to capture every moment. But they’ve probably hired a photographer, and maybe a videographer, whose job it is to do just that. They don’t need your photos, and you’ll probably see theirs. Putting your phone away means you won’t show up in any professional photos with a phone in front of your face. Also, it means you will not be posting the photos on social media before the newly married couple. It also means that you can just enjoy the moment and focus on the ceremony and its following events. Staying unplugged means more fun at the wedding!
Bring a Gift
Nowadays, people don’t typically bring physical gifts to the wedding because it’s so much easier to just ship things directly from the registry. If you want to get the couple a physical gift, order it from their registry and send it within two months of the wedding. When it comes to the actual day, bring a card, and the couple will welcome cash or a check. You can give as much as you want, but you wouldn’t want to give less than $50.
Being the best wedding guest basically just boils down to being considerate. You want to acknowledge all the time, effort, and money that your loved ones have spent on this big event.
Do you have any wedding guest horror stories? Share them below!
Blog by Erin Lafond